Cooking Therapy

I worried about my emotions as I returned to Geneva yesterday. I was exhausted as I stepped off the plane in Geneva after ten days of constant meetings, social events, moving from place to place, and a little thing called running a marathon. Don’t get me wrong – these 10 days were wonderful and we are so thankful we had an opportunity to see friends just 3 months after moving. Most people who are living abroad only fly back to their home country 1-2 times per year, maximum. This year, we will be back in the United States 2 times within the first 6 months of our move.

But, regardless of exhaustion, I felt like my mood when I arrived in Geneva would match the gray skies. I figured that I would find myself at home, alone, depressed about the situation after 10 fun filled days. Instead of succumbing to unhealthy thoughts or actions, I proactively worked to overcome this pending emotion and was actually able to find a healthy way to avoid it.

Instead of focusing on how much I will miss our friends or our home city of New York, I focused on making my Geneva home truly feel like a home last night. After going through emails and catching up on work for a few hours, I headed to the grocery store. I still find the grocery stores in Geneva to be a foreign and confusing proposition, unlike the friendly aisles of Publix and Whole Foods. I haven’t figured out the organization, if there is one, and therefore it makes shopping take far longer than normal. In order to make the process easier I decided that going in with a plan would allow me to organize my thoughts and also have translations readily available, in case I couldn’t find a product.

I spent 15 minutes finding a recipe (Turkey Pumpkin Chili), typing the ingredient list into Google translator, pushed translate and then copied the text over to an email which I sent to myself. This simple task made grocery shopping in a foreign store so much more manageable. I picked up all the produce and dairy items first, which tend to be easier. Then, using my translation list, I asked for help finding the smaller items which were hiding such as ground chicken, a few spices, and beans. Having the power of knowing the French terms made asking for help less intimidating. Having a recipe that excited me made the process of searching for items and the entire grocery shopping experience more fun as I knew it was a means to the end – a delicious and healthy home cooked dinner.

Don’t get me wrong. I’ve been cooking in Geneva the past few months but I haven’t been making recipes and getting creative in the kitchen. Instead I feel as if I’ve been preparing simple dishes such as a heated vegetable, protein and carbohydrate. This process left me bored and uninspired. It’s amazing what a few minutes on Pinterest can do for the soul.

Cooking therapyLast night, cooking was my therapy. The hour I spent preparing the ingredients, simmering and constantly stirring the chili, crafting a flavorful salad, and then sitting and dining by candlelight gave me a joy I haven’t felt in ages. This unique and awkward space, complete with the wood paneling and small, dingy refrigerator and oven, felt like my happy place.

For so long, I’ve found my happiness in Geneva outside. Whether hiking in the French Alps or running along Lake Geneva this solace was something that I couldn’t find in my own home. Just in time for the gray Autumn months and bitter, cold winter months I couldn’t be happier to have rediscovered happiness in the kitchen.

Special thanks to Gena and Anne who inspired me to get back in the kitchen, one recipe at a time. If you don’t follow my recipe board on Pinterest yet, I’d love for you to join the party. I can guarantee you that a pinning party has just begun and it isn’t stopping anytime soon!

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Tips for Making A Long Distance Relationship Easier

Many people question our decision to go from living together as a married couple in New York City to living in two separate cities, London and Geneva. We knew it wouldn’t be easy when we made the decision but we also knew that we would forever regret not giving it a try. While it isn’t ideal, it allowed us to not sacrifice either of our careers while still having the opportunity to live in Europe. Many of our family friends and co-workers told us that they had said no to similar opportunities and always regretted it. Keeping in mind the fact that nothing has to be permanent and this is something we’re testing, we agreed to give it a try.

Nine weeks later we can safely say that living in two cities, within an hour flight of each other, isn’t impossible.

Bo & Ashley in September

From top, clockwise: Annecy, France, – Out in Eaux Vives – Dinner in Beaune, France – Bernand, France – Beaune, France

We are together every single week Friday through Sunday evening or Monday morning. Luckily, thanks to the time change, Bo is able to fly back to London Monday morning when he is in Geneva. Having him here on Sunday night is such a blessing and something I will never take for granted again. My role allows me to work from London on Friday which means that each weekend, regardless of whether we are in London or Geneva, we are together three nights.

During our run together this morning we talked about what we’ve done to make the challenge easier. Hopefully our experience can help another couple who is going through something similar.  As always, if you have any questions, let us know! This is definitely something we’re willing to talk about more! Tips for Long Distance Relationships

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Turning Point

This week has been a turning point for me both personally and professionally.

Unfortunately, as you all can tell, I haven’t exactly been sharing everything daily on the blog.  This isn’t because I can’t or don’t want to. It’s merely because after a week of burning the candle from both end when I was in Paris and Geneva I decided that the only way I’d keep from getting sick was to sleep this week. IMG_6671Each night when I walked through the door I gave Bo a quick hug and kiss before collapsing in bed.

So, back to why this week was a turning point. Well, I spent over sixty hours at the office between Monday and Friday, even though Monday was supposed to be a holiday to honor Martin Luther King Jr. Day. The beautiful thing about this sixty hour work week is that it reaffirmed just how much I love my new role. I am blessed to have a career that I love at a company for which I never want to leave. I am blessed to be surrounded by people who push me on a daily basis, challenge me to manage the business, make decisions, and come to my side when I need support. What I love even more is that they are just all around great people.

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I was worried that my new role wouldn’t be everything I hoped when I first accepted it. But, in the few short months that I’ve been 100% in the role it’s evolved to be more than I ever expected and has added a few new facets which have challenged me but are also helping me grow as a leader, colleague and decision maker within my organization. Without the strength and support of my colleagues, none of this would have been possible and for that I’m ever thankful.

Bo and I both work long hours during the week but we both discussed at length last night just how blessed we are to be doing what we both love. There are always good days and bad days at work but there is nothing more assuring than when you can look at yourself in the mirror before heading to work and smile because you are looking forward to the day.

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On the personal side, I woke up Tuesday morning and decided to face the scale. After a wonderful week of traveling I wasn’t exactly sure what numbers would flash on the scale but I knew that I felt great. The numbers that graced the screen were 3 digits I haven’t seen in four years. The past month of holidays, travel, celebration, and long hours have been favorable to my body as I’m back to my goal weight set with Weight Watchers when I started my weight loss journey in 2005. I started the journey at 195 pounds and today am at my happy weight of 156 pounds.  What’s even more important than the number on the scale is the way I feel these days. In one word I’ve felt confident. Confident enough to finally try Barry’s Bootcamp, confident enough to spend night after night on the dance floor in a foreign country, confident enough to make decisions at work, and confident enough to push myself in different ways.

Over the past four years I’ve moved in with Bo and started working from an office, all of which have caused my weight to fluctuate. Between marathon training and enjoying life in New York City it’s been hard to find a happy balance. But then, after the marathon, I decided that I was tired of trying and figured that I’d take some time post marathon just to see what my body wanted to do naturally.  I’ve been eating what I crave, enjoying wine, and working out consistently. The trick is all about intuitive eating and drinking. When I’m craving something, I eat it but in a small portion.

For example, last week in Geneva and Paris I didn’t sacrifice enjoying local specialties just because it may include heavy cheese or loads of butter. I enjoyed it, stopped when I was satiated and then focused on staying active. For some people ,this is how they live their entire life and never have to think about it. Those people are blessed. For those of us who have experienced years of fighting with food and balance, it is a magical moment when life tips in our favor.

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In addition, Bo and I both broke up with our personal trainers on Tuesday morning. There is no ill will between us and though I worried and thought about the decision for longer than I ever should have, Lauren, my trainer, articulated the end of our relationship perfectly. They taught us how to lift, use our bodies, and go through effective workouts so now it’s time for us to continue on our own. Over the past 18 months Lauren took me from a cardio queen to someone who does 45 minute weight workouts by choice when traveling. I am able to push through 45 pushups, use kettle bells, know my way around the weight room, and have confidence to try new classes and moves solo or with friends. We have both become independent enough that we’ll do boot camps together without needing the support of a personal trainer.

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So for now, I’m relishing the fact that we’ve both found balance in our lives from a health and work standpoint that has left us happier than ever.

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