A Book That Challenges You To Be Better

As you guys know, I am an avid reader. One of my favorite ways to relax after a long day is to light a candle, fill the tub with Epsom salts and read a good book. As I lose myself in the novel’s characters and their stories, the stress of the day and my own worries melt away. Many nights, especially on Thursday evenings, I’ll go from the tub to bed and spend the next hour reading before falling asleep. As Bo and I have reduced the amount of television and screen time, we have before bed, this time has been filled with reading.

Over the Summer, since making this change, I read 16 books ranging from historical fiction to light “beach reads.” After reading a few heavier books, that sometimes left me emotionally drained and thinking about the characters decisions, I was craving a lighter read that would leave me laughing and smiling. Luckily, when my friends at CLEVER reached out about partnering on a book review, the book was a welcome change from what I’ve recently read.

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Rich with humor and sass, I’m Judging You, is the debut book from Luvvie Ajayi. An award-winning writer, speaker and the author and voice of Awesomely Luvvie, a popular humor blog, Luvvie leaves is clearly not afraid of what people think. In fact, this book of humorous essays reflects on behavior seen throughout our society. She reminds me of that friend who says everything exactly as it is, throwing any filters or “politically correct” tendencies out the window.

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Photo credit: Damon Scheleur

As I worked my way through the books multiple topics, some of them left me laughing and nodding my friend as we all know a friend who sucks at friendship or a person who is always the dinner scrooge. But other chapters left me deep in reflection and thought as I thought about the role social media plays in not only my life but society.

I thoroughly enjoy minding other people’s business, but it’s not my fault. It’s theirs. People have made it too easy to know everything about their personal business because of social media, especially Facebook. That is the digital Lipton factory, where all gossip tea goes to boil, and I am here for it all the way.

What she says is true. Facebook has become my generation’s soap opera. Whether it’s the constant dating updates, job changes, political rants or even hourly pictorial updates including everything from a morning run to fights with the toddlers, Facebook has become the place to get your fix. While there are benefits, such as the ability to stay connected to long-distance friends and family, it can also become a deep hole of envy, comparison, and perfection.

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A perfect book to read in between heavier, longer books, I’m Judging You: The Do-Better Manual is a great reminder that we can all improve regardless our age or life stage.

 

 

I was selected for this opportunity as a member of CLEVER and the content and opinions expressed here are all my own.

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Taking A Breath for A Better Day

Thank you, Spire for sponsoring this post. Discover calm and live a more mindful life by checking out the Spire Mindfulness + Activity Tracker, available in Apple Retail stores nationwide and online here.

Over the past few months, I’ve shared my struggles in balancing life with you guys. I found myself getting caught in the whirlwind and swirl of leading a “busy” life and not making time for the things that mattered most.  Last week, I wrote a raw, honest post sharing the steps I’ve taken to make space in my life so I can prioritize the things that matter.

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What I didn’t share in that post is that there are other steps I’ve taken over the past few months to bring more calm into my daily life. During late July, I started to notice that my shoulders and body were more tense than normal, I was having a hard time going to sleep at night, not sleeping well, and experiencing anxiety. There were a number of external factors within my personal and professional life causing this stress, but what I also realized was that I wasn’t doing anything to help minimize it.

It’s amazing what one app or stone can do to help you focus on certain aspects of your life.  

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When the team at Spire sent me their new wearable device, Spire Mindfulness + Activity Tracker, I used this as a catalyst to begin focusing on improving my mindfulness and daily stress levels. Even before I started making changes to my calendar and schedule, I started looking at the areas that were a bit easier to control.  Have you ever found yourself forgetting to breathe during a stressful meeting or clenching your jaw when you are stressed?

Being mindful isn’t always easy, especially when life gets busy but luckily it is something that we have full control over.

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The small device, which is about the size of my thumb, tracks and creates patterns from your breath.  Unlike other wearables, this can be worn on your bra or waist, making it invisible to others. When the Spire determines that you are stressed or tense, it reminds you to breathe with a simple vibration, signaling that you should take a minute to calm down through breathing exercises or a short meditation.  The device will also vibrate if you have been sedentary for too long, reminding you that even a quick walk around the office can help relax you.

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In addition to taking breathing and focus breaks, prompted by the Spire, here are three other things that I’ve incorporated into each of my days.

  • Reading – While we love shows like “Night Of” just as much as the next person, Bo and I have both found that we sleep better and go to sleep more relaxed if we spend 30 minutes reading before bed. By 10pm each night we switch off our television, put our iPhones and iPads away, and spend 30 minutes reading. This new habit has helped me led to me finishing seven books during August and September, more than I read the previous six months.
  • Meditation –  The Spire app features more than 15 different boosts or short audio sessions which guide you through meditation or breathing exercises. Some are as short as 30 seconds while others are up to 60 minutes. I begin my day with the guided meditation boost, relax during the day with the 30 second calm boost and clear my mind around 3pm with the energize 3 minute boost.  They include experts such as Dr. Deepak Chopra and meditation teacher Kim Nicol. These boosts have helped me realize that you don’t need much to bring space and calm into even the busiest of days.
  • Yoga – I have recommitted to practicing yoga at least once per week in a formal class and at least once per week at home. The yoga I practice at home is often a shorter, more restorative class, complete with my favorite candle and some calming music. This time on the mat allows me to set aside the stress of the day and focus on how my muscles and body are feeling.

As you guys know, these reviews are always honest and my own opinion. Therefore, I would be remiss if I didn’t share the areas where I think Spire can improve.

  • I wish it incorporated everything. In the future, I hope this wearable becomes one which tracks sleep, activity, breathing and more as I believe that combining all these items will truly help make this a best in class tracker. I know that they are working to make constant improvements and can only imagine what version 2.0 will be like!
  • Their customer service has some opportunities. During the test we sent a few questions to their customer service after receiving the form email following set up. Two weeks later, we still haven’t received a response. I did however receive a quick response when I asked something on a social media channel so maybe it’s more about ensuring that they are in touch with their consumers across every touch point they provide.
  • It is a little bulky. Both my husband and I felt that the wearable was a bit bulky. I found myself needing to remove it during yoga as it pressed into my chest bone during certain moves and we both found it  uncomfortable to wear inside non-elastic pants, i.e suit pants vs workout shorts. Hopefully the next version is slimmer.

Regardless of these few flaws, I believe this is a great tool to use if you are finding yourself stressed and anxious and I look forward to continuing to use it, especially during the work day.

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I was selected for this opportunity as a member of Clever Girls and the content and opinions expressed here are all my own.

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