One Dress, Two Rehearsal Dinners

Three years ago, I was getting ready to say I do to my best friend. It was this weekend that I had my final dress fitting and curled up on the floor of the store sobbing because my wedding dress barely zipped. The stress of moving to New York City, moving in with a boy, anxiety, and many other things had led to a 15 pound weight gain between our engagement and wedding weekend.

Back then the way that I lost weight was by counting calories, many of which were empty and processed, taking water pills every now and then, lots of caffeine in the form of Diet Coke or coffee, and lots of cardio. Well, the picture below shows that even doing that for a week didn’t help much.

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The last time I wore my rehearsal dinner dress, one that I fell in love with as soon as I saw it in JCrew, was on November 20th at our rehearsal dinner. I used the gorgeous wrap my aunt gave me as a cover to protect myself from seeing my arms in any of the mirrors. I was so uncomfortable and self conscious that night that I don’t have a single picture from that night on Facebook or framed in our home.

Last night, for the first time in 3 years, I put this dress on and instead of feeling self conscious I felt beautiful and strong. Cleaner eating, combining cardio with lifting heavy, positive thinking, and better daily choices have made me a new woman. I can say that I am happier and more confident today, inside and out, than I have ever been before!

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A Full Heart and Calm Mind

A week ago this time, I was anxious about the cancelled marathon and devastated by the path of destruction Hurricane Sandy left behind. It’s amazing how much can change in a week. Right now, as I sit here lounging in our home for the weekend, a hotel room that is larger than our 715 square foot New York City apartment my heart is full and my mind is calm.

In less than 7 days time, over 140 items were purchased from Jen’s Target registry which Bo and I set up on a whim last Sunday. She received the first delivery today from Target and I think it’s safe to say that Christmas came early thanks to the incredible generosity of strangers. Just check out this picture she sent me this afternoon!

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In 8 days, I’ll toe the starting line of the Philadelphia Marathon with two of my new running buddies, Meghan and Kristin, for what will hopefully be a PR race for all 3 of us. This week we’ve spent time chatting via email and Twitter about our plans. While choosing a race at the last minute is often stressful due to some amazing friends, it’s going to be a great weekend that has been pretty stress free this week. One of my work friends is letting three marathon gals and one awesome cheerleader crash his apartment Saturday night and providing a parking spot. In addition, since Sabrina’s husband is running the half marathon, Bo has a cheering partner who is a seasoned marathon spectator. I can’t wait to see so many familiar faces along the course. To make matters even better, I found out a few minutes ago that I’ve already reached 65% of my fundraising goal for Pennies in Action, a breast cancer vaccine research non-profit based in Philadelphia. I’m humbled and amazed at the people who have donated thus far! I can’t wait to write each one a hand written thank you note on our flight back home Sunday.

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Finally, I’m back in the Low Country. While I love New York City a weekend down in Georgia is always good for a Southern girl’s soul. Since I really want this weekend to be all about spending quality time with friends and family, I decided to get my long run out of the way this afternoon. During our hour drive from the Jacksonville Airport to Sea Island I was tempted with the gorgeous views and weather. IMG_5735

Thirty minutes into the ride I announced to the gang to count me out of any afternoon activities because I knew a long run and some alone time with the road and the fresh air would be the perfect way to relieve the stress of this long week.

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I wasn’t sure how the run would go since I already had 25 miles in for the week and a Barry’s Bootcamp workout less than 24 hours prior but I figured I’d at least give it an attempt. If nothing else, I could always bag the run and turn it into a long walk.

Maybe it was the perfect weather (65 degrees and low humidity), the gorgeous homes, marsh views, or a great playlist but the run was perfect. My legs were definitely tight and I feel every muscle in my ass after the glute portion of Barry’s Bootcamp last night but pushing through this pain only gave me further confidence that I’m mentally and physically stronger than I was a a year ago. I needed a run like this and I can’t help but think that a little Vitamin D will make my dress tonight feel and look that much better on me.

Doesn’t everyone do a happy runner dance before their run?

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The next to pictures pretty much summarize my run. This was taken at the halfway point and when I looked ahead I saw the water and docks and when I turned around I saw the Live Oak lined road where I enjoyed a shaded sidewalk path for five miles each way.

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I ended at the beach and enjoyed a ten minute “ice bath” compliments of the Atlantic Ocean in hopes that it’d simmer down my angry calf muscles.

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I mean a girl needs happy legs if she’s going to dance into the wee hours of the morning, right?

I’ll see you guys tomorrow for a review of Barry’s Bootcamp but until then have a great evening. I’m off to a much needed glass of wine and enjoy this sunset in God’s country, our nickname for the Low Country because you never realize how much you miss it until you’re back.

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Marathon Tips from a First Timer

Hey there! I’m Anne and I write about marathon training – or since Oct. 28, about post-marathon slothfulness – at Riled Up Runner.

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When Ashley first asked me to contribute a post to her fabulous Marathons+Moderation guest series, I was still a few weeks out from my inaugural marathon and therefore woefully unqualified to impart any advice on running 26.2 miles. But now that I’ve been a successful marathoner for, um, a full week, I’m clearly an expert. You should probably take everything I write as science.*

*False.

To be honest, running is a relatively new pastime for me, and one I only considered in a last ditch effort to regain a sense of control after finding myself on New Year’s Day 2011 self-conscious, discouraged and 30 pounds overweight. Let me paint a picture for you: the vast majority of my exercise during the previous 25 years had consisted of sprints to the fridge during Food Network commercial breaks. But since anything seems possible during the first week of January, I somehow allowed myself to be talked into registering for the Philadelphia Broad Street 10-mile Run that May with a group of much healthier friends. Not wanting to come in last place, I manned up, actually trained and – after five months of a slow and steady ramp up – crossed the finish line 10 minutes faster than I’d expected and with the most intoxicating runner’s high imaginable. As my favorite fictional character Forrest Gump said, “From that day on, if I was going somewhere, I was running!”

Despite my instantaneous obsession with mid-distance racing, at the time, I wouldn’t have told you a marathon was in the cards for me. Ten miles was rough – I remember thinking – how do some runners do that twice and then add on an extra 10K to boot? So I put the idea of running 26.2 out of my mind and focused instead on 5Ks and 10Ks and the occasional half marathon. I was down to my ideal weight, I was loving the post-race euphoria and I was content.

And then New Year’s Day 2012 rolled around and suddenly, I needed a new resolution. And I really didn’t want it to be flossing. Enter Marine Corps Marathon 2012.

I selected the Marine Corps Marathon in DC for a lot of reasons – my family’s extensive naval history, the prospect of meeting my gorgeous marine soul mate on the race course (spoiler alert: no such luck) and the fact that I could avoid the lottery and secure myself guaranteed entry by running a Marine Corps 10K in March.

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So I registered, trained, puffy-painted a shirt with my name on it and – I still can’t believe it – finished my first marathon last week at a surprise 3:51:51 clip. I’d been targeting a just-barely-sub-4:00, but the thrill of the event and the roar of the crowds and the promise of a lot of deliciously empty calories at the finish line lit a fire under my feet and kept me feeling strong for the entire 26.2-mile loop.

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Now I think we’ve established here that I’m no expert in running, but I have picked up a few tips along the way that I wish someone had told me before I began marathon training. So in no particular order, I bring you Anne’s list of tips I wish someone had told me before I began marathon training. (Really rolls off the tongue, huh?)

Take your training seriously, but not at the expense of your social life. Marathon training, like most things in life, is all about balance and moderation. Yes, you need to do all your long runs. Yes, you should complete your weekly speed work. Yes, you have to sleep 7+ hours a night, eat well most days and keep the race at the back of your mind all training cycle long. But that doesn’t mean you have to give up the occasional happy hour, or even the occasional all-nighter, during those four months of discipline. Might I have broken 3:50 if I hadn’t danced until the sun came up at a friend’s apartment a few weeks before race day? Maybe. But would I be the well-rounded 90s-dance-party-afficianado I am today? Probably not. I’ll be the first to admit you’re going to have to make some sacrifices in your life to be a great runner, but you also sometimes have to make sacrifices in your running to have a great life. Moderation in all things, including moderation.

Train with friends sometimes, but enjoy your alone time, too. Running with friends is a wonderful way to mix your social life with your training schedule, plus post-run mimosas are way more socially acceptable when you’re not drinking them alone. But while friends can encourage you to run faster and run farther, I think there’s something equally rejuvenating about running solo. Most week days, I head out to Central Park sans-music, sans-Garmin, sans-everything and enjoy some peaceful miles with no sound except that of my steady breathing and my feet hitting the pavement. Sure, there’ll be plenty to look at come race day, but when you find yourself in a crowd-free section of the marathon course with no running buddy around to inspire you, you’ll be glad you have experience running with only No. 1.

Take pictures of your feet before you begin training. Seriously. Why did no one tell me this? While I never claimed to have foot-model-caliber paws before, now that they’re a calloused, toenail-free mess, I suddenly wish I’d paid them more respect pre-2011.

Stretch. I don’t do this, but I’ve heard it’s good for you.

Puffy paint a shirt with your name on it for race day. I’m partial to puffy paint, but you could also use Sharpies or fabric paint or iron-on decals. Either way, don’t even think about toeing the starting line without having your given name broadcast across your bosom. I can’t tell you enough how much the random spectators calling out my name kept me going during those final miles of the Marine Corps Marathon. With every single “Go Anne!,” I grinned – oh fine, and usually teared up – and found the motivation I needed to keep plowing through.

And on that note: go watch local races you’re not participating in and cheer on your friends – or random strangers with their names on their shirts (see above). Part of the fun of running is being a member of a vibrant running community, and never is that sense of camaraderie more apparent than on the sidelines of a race. Volunteer to distribute water if that’s your thing, or just wake up early to clap and holler from the sidelines. What goes around comes around, and cheering on your fellow athletes is unquestionably good karma. One word of caution though: if you’re going to make a sign for the New York City Marathon just hours before Bloomberg decides to cancel it, probably best not to make it so topical it won’t be funny come NYC 2013.

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Ah well. Live and learn, right?

Good luck with your training, everyone, and if you ever find yourself in need of a running buddy in New York City, you know where to find me! (ShakeShack, probably.)

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