Consistently Striving to Feel My Best Again

Consistency.

This is a word that I’ve thought about a lot recently, spurred by my friend Kristine, who wrote a post about her wedding bod goals as well as a discussion with my therapist. Since giving birth to Katie and returning to work, balancing everything has been harder than I expected. Don’t get me wrong. I didn’t go into November expecting things to be easy. But, I felt like my type A personality and persistence would help me achieve everything I wanted. There were certain things that I had to prioritize – family and career.  Once I did everything possibly daily to be the best mom, wife, daughter, and colleague possible, it left very little time for me to focus on anything physical or aesthetic.

But, seven months after returning back to work, I’m starting to feel like I have space in my life to focus on feeling comfortable in my skin again. When I became pregnant with Katie in September of 2016 I was at my healthiest – emotionally and physically.  While a lot has changed since then, luckily, I am still very healthy mentally thanks to a team of friends, family, and professionals who have helped me manage this life change. But, from a physical aspect, I am not feeling like my best self. I’ve found myself hiding in the back row during pictures, untagging myself in Facebook pictures, feeling weak during workouts and lethargic. There are wonderful events coming up over the next few months including Katie’s first birthday party, a week-long beach trip, two weddings and a goal half marathon for which I want to be feeling my best. But, more important than a half marathon time or the way I look in a bridesmaid dress, I am doing this for me and for Katie.

I want to be a strong, energetic and confident role model for Katie.

These changes won’t come overnight. Instead, I know that consistency is key to feeling strong and healthy not just for an hour, a day or a week but for the future. When I lost 50 pounds during my senior year of college, 12 years ago, it was due to small, consistent changes versus things like cleanses, restrictions, etc.  I know that at the age of 34 losing weight and getting in shape will be a bit different than it’s been in the past but I’m excited. I’ve embraced the new curves that motherhood has provided but now want to focus on living a healthier, more moderate life to help me feel my best.

In order to hold myself accountable and share my journey with you all, here are the things I’m focusing on for June:

  • Consistently moderating my wine consumption – Over the past few years, I’ve typically enjoyed wine a few nights a week. But, over the past few months, I have started having two glasses on a nightly basis. While I have no desire to cut out wine altogether, I am reducing my enjoyment to four or five nights per week.
  • Consistently increasing my steps – I did some research in my iPhone’s HEALTH app and realized that my average steps per day have changed greatly over the past few years ( 2015 – 11,821 – 2016 – 8,630 – 2017 – 5,768 -2018 – 6,191). I was surprised to discover this but since I don’t commute most days and my stroller time with Katie is now limited during the week, I am going to have to make movement a priority. My goal for June is to increase my average steps to 8,000 for the month. I can do this by taking Katie for more frequent walks, running more, walking for exercise and using my two feet for errands instead of subway, taxi or Citibike.
  • Consistently track my food – Bo and I have done a great job planning in advance to ensure we are able to enjoy homemade dinners an average of five nights a week. We do a lot of meal prep on Sunday so that cooking during the week is easier. But, I haven’t been as mindful of my breakfast, lunches, and snacks. Since I work from home, I have my pantry and refrigerator just steps away. This can be a blessing but also a curse, especially if I give into the snack monster.  Starting yesterday, I’m keeping track of my breakfast, lunch, and snacks Monday through Friday.
  • Consistently following a training or workout plan – It has been a long time since I’ve had a workout plan and this lack of structure has resulted in me doing a little bit of everything but not sticking with anything consistently. While I’ve been working out, I’ve found myself at one end of the spectrum or the other.  I will have a few great workouts in a row and then find myself either skipping workouts or dialing it in.  Consistency will not only help me feel better but it will also help ensure that I don’t injure myself by going too hard without a strong base. Now that Theodora is coaching me for my fall half marathon, she is putting a plan together that will enable me to feel my strongest going into the half marathon while also making sure I don’t burn out. You can expect a mix of strength training through Body Pump and pilates in addition to the prescribed running workouts.

Since I just took measurements for my bridesmaid dress, I actually have measurements that I can track my progress against in addition to the scale and physical achievements like seeing improvements in the weight I use during Body Pump, form during Pilates classes and my paces. But, more than anything, I look forward to feeling better in my skin by making a few, consistent changes.

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New York City Travel Guide

Over the years, I’ve received many requests for a New York City itinerary. Whether people are coming into town for a quick work meeting, week-long vacation or a girl’s weekend, everyone wants to know where to stay, eat, drink and what to do while they are in town visiting. Therefore, when my friends at Expedia.com asked me to help their readers by sharing my tips on how to enjoy time in New York, I figured it was finally time to start putting things into a post that I can share and reference for years to come.

Planning a trip to New York can be overwhelming because on any given day there are always new restaurants opening, a new Broadway premiering and a new hot spot to enjoy. But, this list will help to provide a starting point for anyone who is coming to New York. Hopefully, you’ll find something whether it’s your fiftieth time or first time visiting.

In order to make this easy to use, I’ve divided it into a few sections which also align with the questions I frequently receive from readers.

Where Should I Stay? Finding the perfect hotel in New York City can be very challenging as there are so many different neighborhoods and the number of options is overwhelming. The first thing I’d recommend deciding is your price range. Once you have this, you can quickly limit the number of hotels on Expedia.com so you are only seeing hotels that are within your price preference. Then, it’s helpful to think about what you want from the experience – gym, breakfast included, hotel restaurant or perfect location. The more you can figure this out before you start researching, the better luck you’ll have.  Based on our friends and family’s experience staying in New York City as well as the knowledge my husband Bo has from working in real estate investments, these are a few hotels we recommend. Of course everyone has their own preferences, so be sure to check out all of the New York City hotel options on Expedia.com.

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  • Five Star Hotels If you’re looking for luxury during your stay, The EDITION is a new hotel on Madison Square Park that puts you in a prime location for exploring, delivers their take on “reinvented luxury” and is also home to a Michelin restaurant, Clocktower. If you’d rather stay closer to Central Park, The PARKER New York offers guests views of Central Park, is walking distance to MOMA, Carnegie Hall, Broadway and Central Park. Inside the hotel, guests can pamper at the rooftop pool or head downstairs to enjoy some rest and relaxation at Drybar, Tenoverten, Skin Laundry, Blushington and more! One of the most popular breakfasts can be found at Norma’s, one of the many restaurants in the hotel.
  • Four Star Hotels These hotels are a bit less expensive but still deliver on experience and location. The Arlo SoHo is a hip hotel based in SoHo which makes it walking distance from many attractions. While part of their concept is small rooms, the amazing rooftop bar and lively atmosphere make up for the smaller rooms. If you like space, our friends recommend upgrading to the king size room which is still reasonably priced for Manhattan and provides a larger room. W Union Square is located in the heart of Union Square and makes walking to areas in both Midtown and downtown easy. The rooms are clean, comfortable and feature Bliss products while the hotel itself includes a popular bar and restaurant area as well as reliable, friendly service.  Last but not least, many co-workers have stayed at Andaz Wall Street. Located in the heart of Wall Street and close to the Brooklyn Bridge, Battery Park and other attractions in downtown Manhattan this hotel includes free Wi-Fi, happy hour and is typically less than $250 per night.

John Dory Oyster Bar

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Where to Eat It seems like a new restaurant opens in New York City every single minute. It’s impossible to stay up-to-date with the latest and greatest spots. Instead, I’ll share with you the list that we’ve put together on a shared iPhone Notes file over the years ranging from our favorite raw bar (The John Dory) to the best chocolate chip cookies in New York and possibly America (Levain Bakery).  I’m happy to answer questions via email or comments if you’re looking for something specific, but this list should provide a decent starting point.

  • Seafood
    • The John Dory
    • Blue Water Grill
    • Aqua Grill
  • Breakfast/Brunch
    • Bubby’s
    • Murray’s Bagels
    • Buvette
    • Little Owl
    • Russ & Daughters
    • ABCV
    • Sadelle’s
  • Baked Goods/Sweets
    • Levain Bakery
    • Two Little Red Hens
    • Magnolia Bakery
  • Worthy of a celebration or special occasion
    • Anisa
    • Gramercy Tavern
    • Gotham Bar & Grill
  • Fast Lunch or Dinner Spot
    • Luke’s Lobster – A lobster shack in the heart of Manhattan, it’s worth paying $20 for the lobster roll, chips, beer and a pickle.
    • Shake Shack
    • Cava
    • Sweetgreen
  • Steak
    • Wolfgang’s
  • The rest of our favorites…
    • Momofuko – If you can’t get into the original,  Ssam Bar and Milk Bar are both experiences of their own. How can you beat the Milk Bar compost cookies, crack pie, birthday cake truffles and cereal milk ice cream?
    • Joe’s Shanghai – The soup dumplings at their Chinatown location are delicious!
    • Riverpark
    • Balthazar
    • Eataly
    • La Esquina
    • Little Owl
    • ABC Kitchen
    • The Spotted Pig

What should I see on Broadway? There is ALWAYS something on Broadway for everyone but the below are the shows that we’ve loved or heard about from friends. Also, you can save money by getting tickets from a TKTS booth which sells same-day and next day tickets at a discount. While there are multiple booths around the city, the one in Brooklyn and South Street Seaport seem to have shorter lines. You can even see the real-time listings on their website or app!

  • Wicked – One of the most wonderful Broadway shows ever and great for all ages.
  • Beautiful: The Carole King Story
  • Waitress – I’ve heard wonderful things about this fun, heartfelt show and most of my friends say it’s great to see with a mom, sister, girlfriend. An added bonus is the pie they serve to everyone during the show!
  • The Phantom of the Opera – This Andrew Lloyd Webber classic has been appealing to people of all ages for years and the set, costumes, music, and story have made this a Broadway hit for YEARS!
  • The Book of Mormon – Hilarious but can offend some people depending on humor. Must be open to vulgarity, -dirty jokes and religious humor. Not recommended for children.
  • Hamilton – expensive, buy tickets in advance
  • Dear Evan Hansen – expensive, buy tickets in advance
  • Avenue Q (off-Broadway)

What Sights Should I Visit? There is no way to see everything in one trip but over the years we’ve taken friends and family to these attractions and returned multiple times as they are very popular with everyone! Be sure to do research in advance as some of these museums or attractions are closed one to two days per week and others, such as the Frick, do not permit children under 10 years of age.

  • The Metropolitan Museum of Art
  • The Natural History Museum
  • The Frick Collection
  • Museum of Modern Art (MOMA)
  • Arthur Avenue Little Italy
  • Ellis Island and The Statue of Liberty
  • Central Park
  • NYC One World Observatory
  • 9/11 Memorial & Museum
  • Grand Central Terminal
  • New York Public Library
  • The High Line
  • Brooklyn Bridge

 

Where Should I  Run?   My favorite way to explore any city is on two feet and whether you are trying to stick to a training plan while visiting the city or just log a few miles, there are plenty of places to run that are safe for any tourist visiting New York for the first time. I always recommend running as early as possible as this will reduce the number of cars and people on the streets which always makes for a more enjoyable run. In fact, my favorite thing to recommend to people visiting is to go for an early morning run as they can see the city “waking up” and finish their run at a local coffee shop or bagel shop.

There are two ways that I recommend running in the city – solo or with a tour. I’ve heard AMAZING things about the City Running Tours and they offer multiple group runs and solo, personalized tours on a daily basis. These group runs allow you the opportunity to get exercise and learn more about the city at the same time. While they aren’t free, a guided run is often a good deal especially if you have limited time in the city or it’s you want to discover a new area.

If you’d rather do your own thing while you run, here are a few of my favorite routes and areas to run.  For even more routes and specific directions, I always point people to this Thrillist article that includes 9 routes throughout the city so there is one convenient to anywhere you’re staying! If you’re visiting during the Christmas holiday season, this holiday run route will take you by all the most famous decorations and light displays!

  • Central ParkIt’s impossible to see everything there is to discover in Central Park, which is often referred to as a “runners dream” since it has multiple paths of varying difficulty, beautiful scenery and lots to enjoy. The full, outer loop of Central Park is 6.1 miles but there are multiple ways to make the distance shorter or longer by taking the transverses along the path. There is also a soft, 1.5-mile loop around the reservoir which provides amazing views of the city.
  • Brooklyn Bridge – If you are an early-riser or have a time change to thank for it, take advantage by heading to one of the most iconic spots in New York City and be treated to beautiful views of Brooklyn, Manhattan and the Statue of Liberty. I wouldn’t attempt running on the bridge between the hours of 9 AM and 5 PM so you need to get there early in order to avoid tourists, photographers and cyclists. Make sure to stay safe and run in the pedestrian lane since cyclists tend to go pretty fast across the bridge. From Manhattan to Brooklyn the bridge is approximately 1.5 miles each way so you can easily get in a hill workout using the bridge.
  • West Side Highway – You can enjoy views of New Jersey, Hudson River and Statue of Liberty along the scenic Hudson River Park which runs from 59th Street to Battery Place, the Southern tip of Manhattan. The path is especially gorgeous in spring and summer when all the flowers are in bloom and you can watch boats going up and down the Hudson River. There are multiple water fountains and places to use the restroom along the path but, similar to most areas, it can become crowded and always make sure to look both ways so you don’t run into a biker.

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Running a Sub 2:00 Half Marathon

diamond family run

It has been a while since I’ve had a fitness goal that excited me. During my pregnancy, my goal was to stay active and healthy. Following Katie’s birth, my goal was once again to stay active which helped me stay physically and mentally healthy. While I was able to achieve both of these and benefited greatly, now that I’m 11 months postpartum, I’m excited to focus on a goal that helps me return to my fitness roots – running.  While I’ve run more than 25 half marathons, 5 marathons and over 50 shorter races since beginning my running journey in 2006, I’ve never been able to break 2 hours in the half marathon.

I’m hoping to run a sub 2:00 half marathon at the NYCRuns Brooklyn Half marathon on October 20th!

Over the past few years, I’ve striven to improve my half marathon times. While I had a few highlights of running 2:01 half marathons along the way, I’ve had more than a few disappointments.  As I look back and read multiple race recaps, a few things stand out: over-training, lack of training, lack of strength training, or lack of recovery time.   I laugh as I read through prior posts and see that I was running 4-5 times a week in addition to taking boutique fitness classes on Classpass or when we lived abroad, traveling every single weekend. I wasn’t allowing my body anytime to recover. Then, when I read other recaps I realize that I went into a race with a stretching goal on very little training.

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ashley 9k

This time around, I am doing a few things differently:

  • I’m balancing motherhood and a career which means my training needs to be efficient and effective.
  • I have given birth and gone through a level of pain that made me stronger mentally and physically.
  • I am starting my training early so I can build a strong base.
  • I am reading to gain knowledge and insights so that I can train smarter. In fact, what is your favorite book or resources? 
  • I am working with my friend Theodora, who is a run coach. As I train for my sub-2 this summer and fall,  she’s putting together a training for me. FYI, she is making plans for both remote runners and those local to NYC. Email her at Theodora@preppyrunner.com for more details.
  • I realize the importance of strength training, core training, and recovery in addition to running.
  • I am going to record EVERYTHING using Strava and my GPS watch.

So there you have it! I’ve shared my goal with you guys as well as with Bo and I am so excited for the training along the way. It has been a dream of mine to set an example for Katie and I can’t wait to run towards her and Bo at the finish line in October!

 

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